I am reading two books at the moment. One is Goddesses Never Age, by Christiane Northrup MD, and the other is The Animal Communicator’s Guide Through Life, Loss and Love, by Pea Horsley, the lady who presented the animal communication workshop which I recently attended. Although I haven’t finished either one, I realised that, in essence, they are both about the same things – making the most of our lives before our physical deaths, and realising that there is really no such thing as death.
In Goddesses Never Age, Christiane provides an enlightened doctor’s view of issues which affect women as they age. The book provides practical advice with a spiritual bent with ways that women can reach the ultimate goal of the enlightened woman – ‘happy, healthy, dead’. In other words, it gives women the tools to live their lives happily and healthily, up until the point they are ready to make the transition, rather than spending the second half of their lives on the downhill slope of growing old, dying slowly day by day.
Pea’s book, on the other hand, takes you on a roller-coaster ride of emotions as you journey with her through her own story of loss, and those of some of her clients. You soon realise, however, that there is a purpose to every part of the process and that, although the physical body of your loved one is no longer with you, the relationship with your loved one continues and evolves after their physical death.
What I am remembering, when reading both these books, is that there is more to life than just achieving a purpose. Many spiritually awakened people become so focused on finding out what their life purpose is and then following the path to it, that they forget that life is meant to be enjoyed. There is no point achieving a goal in life if, once that goal is reached, we feel our life is over.
Empty nesters, those parents who suddenly find themselves without children in the house, along with people who are newly retired, sometimes find themselves without a purpose in life. If their entire focus has been on their children or on their job, once they are without this focus, they can feel they have lost their sense of identity and their purpose in life.
Every stage in our lives and every situation we face can be embraced, if we look at life from a broader, higher perspective.
What these books have helped me to understand is that, no matter what stage of life we are facing, there is always a purpose to our lives, and the path to that purpose and all of the detours we may take along the way, are meant to be enjoyable.
When we are facing the imminent or recent physical death of a loved one, it can be difficult to understand the purpose of that death, and the associated suffering for that person or animal and their family. With hindsight, however, we can often get a clearer view.
After my mother’s death, I was able to appreciate the way that her passing had reunited her children, who had grown apart in the previous few years. A relative’s passing, which occurred on the 80th anniversary of his birth, left the phrase, which he often used, ringing in everyone’s ears: “Oh well. It’s only a game.”
He was reminding us that, as with the major events which occur in our lives, we have absolute control over the timing of our deaths. Obviously, this is not always the case on a conscious level, in this physical plane, but is always the case from our soul’s perspective. And, even though it can be difficult to comprehend from our perspective in this physical world, the method of our death is also within our control.
I believe that there are soul contracts and karma repayments which have a bearing on our deaths, and our lives, for that matter. However, free will is always operating.
If we can take on board the advice from my relative and treat this life as just a game, we may get to the stage when we can embrace every situation which comes our way, and at the time of a loved one’s death, we may remember to celebrate their life, rather than mourn their loss.
We should remember, too, that physical death is not an ending, but merely a change – a change in the way we relate to that person. The relationship is eternal.
Although I now know that death of this body is nothing to be feared, I will still be doing my best to look after this amazing vessel which houses my soul. I, too, am aiming for: happy, healthy, happy, healthy, happy, healthy, dead.
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