Our spouses maybe don’t see things the way we do, or maybe we think they are the cause of the problem. Our friends don’t seem to understand, and if they do, their efforts at cheering us up only seem to make things worse. It is easy, at those times, to feel like we are having to cope with our problems all alone. Perhaps there is a reason for that.
All of our spiritual lessons have to be faced and learned by us as individuals. No matter what the circumstances of our particular challenges, no other person is having the exact same experience as we are having. No one else has the same background, the same insecurities, the same fears. Even if we are facing the same situation as a crowd of other people, not one other person is having the same experience of that situation.
Yet, even though the spiritual lessons have to be faced by us alone, we always have help, and we are never asked to endure any challenge greater than we can bear.
There is an old saying: “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” In fact, everything we endure makes us stronger spiritually, even if we become a blubbering mess emotionally.
If we can accept this fact, when we are faced with a challenge which we may think is insurmountable, we may be able to start, ever so slowly, to overcome even this challenge.
If we can look at even this seemingly insurmountable challenge in such a light, we start to find joy in all of life, because we can understand that we wouldn’t have been presented with such a problem, if there was no possibility of finding a solution.
That is not to say that everything will necessarily turn out as we hoped. A serious car accident may still result in permanent physical disability; a loved one we hoped would overcome a drug addiction may never recover; we may still get fired from that job we hoped to hold on to.
How would our perspective of the challenge change, if we considered that everything is happening in divine order?
That permanent physical disability may lead you to use your mind in a way you hadn’t before…developing a cure for cancer perhaps. Your loved one’s addiction may lead you to volunteer in some helpful role which you otherwise may never have considered. Your lost job may be the impetus you need to start your own business and become a roaring success in a field which previously you had only considered a hobby.
At the time we are going through the worst of our challenge, it may be impossible to see a positive outcome, or even to imagine that there could be one, but if we can keep an open mind about it, a positive outcome is more likely to present itself.
If we can look at what otherwise would be considered a bad situation, and ask ourselves these questions, we may find that it is not so bad after all:
- What can I learn from this situation?
- How may I benefit from this situation?
There is another question which we may need to ask ourselves first:
- Is this situation here for someone else?
That is not to say that we may not be affected by someone else’s challenge. I believe that we are affected by and we affect every situation which we perceive. As quantum physicists are beginning to prove, we affect every situation of which we are aware. This brings new meaning to the old philosophical question: “If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?” But I digress.
The reasons for this situation may not be about us. Using the examples I gave before: Your physical disability may be a way for your spouse to have an opportunity to care for you the way you cared for them in a previous life. Your loved one’s drug addiction may be a way for them to understand the interconnectedness of all life, as they see the devastation which their addiction has on so many people. The job you lost may be given to someone else, who was otherwise thinking of committing suicide.
We may never know all of the reasons for a particular situation, at least, not until our physical deaths. I believe that, when we die, we have a chance to review our lives, to understand all of the reasons for all that occurred, to examine our reactions to situations, and to consider, if we had our time over again, how we might have responded differently.
Our challenge, then, when faced with these challenging situations, is to forget, for a moment, the effect this situation is having on us, and to send love to all the others who are affected by this situation. This has a beneficial effect in a couple of ways:
- It takes our mind off our problems, which is always an advantage. For, as Einstein is quoted as saying: “We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.”
- The love we send out always comes back to us. So we always will feel better. (Luke 6:38: “give, and it will be given to you. . . . . For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”)
The other thing we need to remember, when faced with any challenge, is that we are never really alone. We always have angels and spirit guides available to help us. We just have to remember to ask for help.
Free will is paramount in this universe. Unless we ask for help, it is assumed that we wish to overcome our challenges without any assistance. If we do ask for help, the form which that help takes may not be what we were expecting, but it is always given.
Look out for messages from your angels in the form of repetitive numbers, books, TV shows, songs, feathers, coins. In fact, any means available. Your angels could send your best friend to tell you just what you need to hear. As I mentioned in last week’s blog about animal communication, and the same applies here, pay attention to everything.
Don’t forget that, you, too, are a mouthpiece for the divine. In your efforts to look for solutions outside of yourself, don’t forget that the answer could very well come from within.
Love is the answer to all questions. If you look at a problem with love, you are sure to find a solution.
I leave you with one way that my angels have helped me.
I have a book called Angel Messages From the Beyond by Juan Nakamori. The idea of the book is that when you face a challenge, if you quiet your mind and focus on the issue with the book in hand, a number between 1 and 82 will come to you. The majority of the times I consulted this book, this is the answer I received:
There is nothing in this world
That is not worth
Beautiful things, ugly things, petty things,
New things, outdated things,
Praise that feels pleasant to the ear,
Good news, health or illness,
Hard work, the kind-hearted and even the egotistical.
All are to be cherished.
From that which can be touched and seen
To the intangible and the invisible,
If you relate to every person, to every thing
And to every situation that arises in your life
Resolutely and with a cherishing mind,
All will become precious, valuable, and worthy.
Instead of disliking, running away from, and hating;
Instead of ignoring, criticising, and despising;
If you observe calmly from a broader perspective,
You will begin to see all things differently.
True meaning – that which has been hidden until now
Will then be revealed to you.
Because, when you see through the mind’s eye of your True Self,
Whatever is no longer necessary for you
Will no longer bother you,
And will disappear from your sight.
Through cherishing the people, things, and situations in your life,
You cherish and nurture your True Self.
(Just as a matter of interest, Doreen Virtue’s Angel Numbers tells us that 11 means:
Stay positive! Your thoughts are materializing rapidly, so you want to ensure positive outcomes by focusing only on the good within yourself, others, and this situation.)
May your challenges be few, and may they be easily overcome.
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